Thursday, February 25, 2010

Interactive Thursday...That Means You!

*Back Story*This is a msg. exchange via Facebook. There’s a long standing drama I have no part of, want no part in, and don't even discuss, but somehow my friend, “Pam” keeps trying to drag me into the mess. I want no part of this. I dodge dramatics at all costs, but I don’t know what to do with this woman. I mean seriously, at this age!? This is worse than the 4th graders I spend my days with. (BTW these names are bullshit)

I never post this sort of crap, it's just I'm at my wits end. I feel almost guilty and uncomfortable putting this out there, but gee whiz! Oh, and the msgs below came on the heels of my EX randomly calling me up to tell me he doesn't want to talk to me anymore out of "self preservation" and blah, blah, blah bullshit, bullshit, bullshit. I can sort of understand his point, but really? I found the whole thing completely inappropriate.

So, here’s where the interactive part comes into play…what would you do?

Pam 08 February at 19:43
favor....i don't know if you are planning on attending george’s party on the 13th (or if you have even heard about it - its in the eve after my big bad b-day bbq) but i am not going (though i think i responded "yes" when drunk the other night). i just don't want the drama, which brings me to the favor.... if you are planning on going, could you please just not talk to me about it? especially that day? i know i bring up the joe/annie situation sometimes (when something notable happens), but ultimately i don't want to hear about it (especially on my b-day)...thanks bud.

Pam 25 February at 09:01
no drama, just honest communication...are you planning on associating with annie (outside of facebook?)...i ask for one reason only. if she is going to be at events you plan, i would want to know ahead of time (in the same way you might want to know if i invited you to a party and someone like...calvin...was going to be there)...No drama about it, i just wouldn't come. That is how tired of the drama i truly am. Well, that and she really did hurt me stephanie. I never said her girlfriend was charles manson - I only said the behavior was out of line. And annie spun it like I was insane and had made up some wild story. The whole thing was (and still is) very, very hurtful. I am "over it", but it is always going to hurt and that isn't drama, its just honesty. Anyway, I'd just like to know one way or the other so I can adjust accordingly (all that means is I'm not going to be anywhere she is).

Steph 25 February at 18:06
Nonsense. I wasn't even going to bother with a reply, like george's party, but here goes:

I've known you for about 10 years or so. I, for one, would never imagine you'd invite calvin to a party (or whatever) but if you did..I would imagine that YOU, as my FRIEND, would have enough RESPECT for ME that you would give me a HEADS UP.

I don't know what you think about me as a person. Clearly, not much.

On the upside, there are no worries, because I haven't planned any events, nor do I plan on planning any events. Furthermore, it's very rare you'd take my calls if there was such an event to attend, especially since you have a "screening process".

With that said, I think we're in the clear.

I could be wrong, but I'm just going to assume this is the drama you mentioned with Kent and Facebook yesterday. Whether it is or not, just for the record I have too much going on to worry myself with these sorts of issues. Please leave me out of these future discussions/communications because I will no longer respond to this sort of stuff.

Steph 25 February at 18:07
and if you're tired of drama, you shouldn't feed into it.

I'm just saying...


Cecilia said...

Go ahead, girl!

Ya..umm...what??? You are so in the right to rant about that! Though all the names got a bit confusing for me :), I get the's a little ridiculous...lots of assumptions - and we all know about assumptions!

Steph said...

@Cecilia: LOL, thanks.

brittany barney said...

ha oh drama draMA. i swear there is no way to awoid it when being a girl and dealing with girls! hahah. but i love your blog! wanna be bloggy friends?

Smart Ass Sara said...

Pammie needs some least a fucking tranquilizer. Dang. What a fucking psycho.

ScoMan said...

Yeah when people get involved in all this sort of thing I usually just look the other way and ignore it.

And that's when it's people I know.

And now that this is people that I don't, I plan on doing pretty much the same thing *turning back to monitor*

Amanda said...

Good lord, this reminds me so much of what my hometown friends are like. Drama for the sake of drama! I can't stand it!

Steph, you are totally in the right here. Call her out on this bs!

Steph said...

@Brit: We can't just be friends, we have to be BFF's...that's the way things work around here!

Ah, bitches :P I hate the drama.

@Sara: I mean, this isn't a conversation that needs to happen!

@Scoman: These kinds of situations make a person antisocial.

@Amanda: I'm glad you understand. There really is no need for this mess!

michelle said...

um are we still in high school? that's so ridiculous. i think you're response is waaaay better (and more civil) than anything i would've written. drama annoys me, and i don't know why people insist on stirring up shit with everyone around *fistshake*

Steph said...

@Michelle: You should see what I got in response to the msg. I sent.

Sheesh! I left that alone!

Her mommy said...

*sigh* Girls make me itch sometimes. Get over it.